Ladies, if he has not initiated interest you have no right to thoughts about a life with him. He initiates interest by telling you he is interested. Something like: I would like to consider you for a marital option. Even if you believe you’ve heard from God concerning a certain man being your husband, you still do not have the right to thoughts of being with him until he initiates interest.
Keep your thought life disciplined and you’ll keep your emotions stable. If you don’t like the way you’re feeling, change the way your thinking.
Be careful not to receive prophesy from someone who says So-and-So is your husband. Many women who think they have heard from God about a certain individual, will prophesy over others. I wouldn’t go there.
When desiring a mate, I wouldn’t use the fleece method. The fleece method is of the Old Covenant. We have the Holy Spirit within us who leads and guides into all truth - into the plan of God for our life. Using the fleece method could point you in the wrong direction.
All articles on this page are written by Rev. Darla Winn unless otherwise indicated
Platonic Affection
I just recently heard the term platonic affection. A minister sited fathers and how they are not affectionate to their children, they do not even kiss or hug their children. He went on to say that daughters need this kind of affection from a man in their life who will not expect anything back.
I believe this is why many young woman end up in wrong relationships because they do not know anything about platonic affection. They desire affection and get it from a guy but it doesn’t stop there, he takes it into intimacy and she thinks it’s because he loves her. They don’t understand affection without sex and end up sleeping around, never meaning to.
Platonic affection keeps a young woman protected from this very thing. It keeps her from being vulnerable to men who prey on women. It keeps her from a life of confusion - she knows who she is and that is not a man’s sex toy or doormat. However, one thing I have noticed with young women who did not get that kind of affection from their fathers or father figures in their life, who are strong women of God, when they get that affection from a brother in Christ it stirs their desire for a husband and can even cause them to think they are in love with that brother in Christ who is expressing this kind of affection which can cause confusion.
You do not have a right to have romantic thoughts about a man who has not initiated romance. Thoughts lead to feelings and it will be one sided – it’s not fair to him. He may offer you affection – receive it as platonic unless he tells you otherwise with his words. This will keep your emotions steady and keeps the door shut to confusion.
Living Single and Holy
Living Single and Holy -
Listen to my interview with Pastor Marlin Reid: Is marriage Spiritual or
natural or both? Is dating appropriate? Should we kiss dating goodbye?
Is there just one man for one woman? Are you waiting on God to bring
your mate? Then why hasn't He brought him/her? Does God make
presentations? Click on the icon, get answers and insight and be
encouraged. Click on the link below to listen.
Single But Not Aloneis a book full of revelation and encouragement, and will impact your heart and help to keep you focused on God and the things of God. Many single, Christians have laid their faith down in search of a mate. This is the road to hardship - they will marry wrong which could bring great hardship in their life. Praying in the Spirit will keep you from choosing the wrong mate. This book is a blessing to many.
Living Single and Holyinspires one to move forward, not willing to lay their faith down for a moment of impurity. You can’t take your faith into sin. When your faith is down, this opens up your entire life for the enemy to work havoc. When your love for God outweighs your urge to merge, you will live in purity.
